Traditional notions of maintaining a “stiff upper lip” or keeping emotions “close to the vest” have become a perfect recipe for shame, anxiety, and feelings of alienation – leading to relationship problems, workplace difficulties, substance abuse, anger and depression.
Science has validated a much more effective way to meet the challenges of caring for ourselves in the midst of overwhelming and ongoing stress. This approach combines knowledge from ancient wisdom traditions, modern neuroscience and psychological research. We are learning that the most resilient, successful, and emotionally intelligent people are the ones who can face adversity and challenge with an open heart and a self-compassionate nature, rather than a rigid or self-critical one. Fortunately, research and practice shows that self-compassion is a skill that can be taught and learned.
Think of someone who had a significant positive influence on you growing up; perhaps a coach or teacher who seemed to be able to bring out the best in you. More often than not, this person had high but reasonable expectations for you, challenged you to do your very best, cheered you on when you succeeded, consoled you when you fell short, but never gave up on you—and always seemed to know that you were capable of more and better. What if you could be your own inner coach or wise teacher?
The practice of mindfulness and self-compassion helps us go through and beyond old roles and find a new powerful voice and quiet confidence. This research has demonstrated that people higher in self-compassion tend to be able to persist and achieve more in the face of adversity; cope better with challenges like divorce, trauma or chronic pain; are able to change troubling and unhealthy habits and behaviors more easily; and are perceived more positively by their partners.
In this one day workshop, you will
Carolena Ranger, MA (Royal Roads), RD
Victoria Pawlowski MED., (U.Toronto), RD., R.C.C
Trained Teachers of Mindful Self-Compassion