Victoria Pawlowski Counselling
stress | anxiety | burnout | communication | conflict | relationships | parenting | chronic illness | grief | trauma | eating disorders | self-esteem | PTSD | pain | caregiver fatigue
Victoria Pawlowski, M.Ed., R.C.C., R.D., is an experienced professional Clinical Counsellor with extensive and ongoing training in a number of complementary evidence-based therapeutic modalities including:
IBP (integrated body psychotherapy)
EMDR (eye movement desensitization reprocessing therapy)
ACT (acceptance commitment therapy)
CFT (compassion focused therapy)
Grief and Bereavement
Victoria has a warm, connected presence and a unique integrative holistic approach. She holds a deep commitment to helping people develop more peace, health and well-being from a framework of mindful awareness and self-compassion.
A moment of self-compassion can change your day.
A string of such moments can change your entire life.
You can count on Victoria to hold a safe, confidential, non-judgmental, compassionate space for you to be with your feelings, emotions, thoughts, fears, angst, concerns. You don’t have to do this alone. It takes courage and strength to seek support.
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Anxiety and depression are two different but often overlapping struggles that can cause a lot of distress and dysfunction at times. Fortunately there are now simple, practical, effective skills that can help.. Together we can work on cognitive behavioural strategies, mindfulness, self-compassion practices and body centred therapies to significantly reduce anxiety, depression and the pain/shame that often goes along with it.
Stress can so easily cross over into burnout over time. Even for the most highly functioning person, there is a limit. And the body keeps score. There is a way to care for yourself at the same time as you are caring for others. A way to learn to manage that edge. Pull back, soften and include yourself in your circle of compassion.
Research clearly shows that relating to ourselves and our suffering with kindness and compassion – not criticism and judgment – is the essential ingredient in effective therapy and life-changing healing. It’s about learning how to stop that inner self-critical voice and start treating yourself with the same love and kindness that you offer to others you care about.
Struggling with conflict, closeness, lack of intimacy, communication problems, abuse, addiction or affairs can touch deep raw spots that can make us feel like we are coming undone. Couples counselling can help us use the relationship as a crucible for growth and transformation. LGBQT friendly.
Grief, numbness, anger, anxiety and shame are all very common emotional reactions to trauma. Compassion focused, mindfulness based, integrative body psychotherapy can help you find a way to manage symptoms, navigate through losses, reconnect with your body, regulate difficult emotions and move past trauma in a way that bears witness to your process, but doesn’t define you for the rest of your life. Victoria is an approved Provider for B.C. Crime Victim’s Assistance Program, ICIBC and ARETE.
Grief is everything we think and feel after losing someone or something we love and cherish. Mourning is when we take all the feelings we have inside about our losses (including fear, anger, despair, confusion, overwhelm, regret, shame) and we express them in some way that bears witness to our suffering. Bereavement Counselling can help you find a way through the bewildering transition of living without your loved one, or the anticipatory grief associated with a terminal diagnosis, for yourself or a loved one.
After the Addiction
You are in recovery, no longer using and ready to deal with all you have been avoiding. It’s time for the deep dive into your emotional being and learn to manage difficult emotions, work with challenging relationships and cultivate more joy and happiness.
Obsessing about size, shape, and weight? Using food, dieting, activity, vomiting or weight loss drugs to manage difficult experiences,relationships, or painful thoughts, feelings and memories? Struggling with a Self-Critical Eating Disorder voice? An integrative holistic approach can help you transform that debilitating shame while normalizing your relationship with food, your body and your life.
Whatever your difficulties—a devastated heart, financial loss, feeling assaulted by the conflicts around you, or a seemingly hopeless illness—you can always remember that you are free in every moment to set the compass of your heart to your highest intentions.
Jack Kornfield (2011)
What, when and how we eat all can impact our emotional health and wellbeing. And of course how we feel affects our energy and interest in taking care of ourselves. Cut through the confusion of many nutrition programs and find out what and how to eat to best optimize your health, energy and vitality.
Anxiety, depression and mood swings are challenging to live with – for everyone. Self-care that includes diet, supplements, exercise, meditation and yoga can make a huge difference. Research shows that some foods and nutrients can be ‘mood protective’ and support optimal ‘serotonin’ levels in the brain while others foods (like sugar or gluten for example) can leave some people exhausted and depressed. Call for a personalized diet consultation to find the right balance to support your optimal mind-body connection and well-being.
Sometimes a commitment to eating healthy foods can slip into a obsession with ‘perfect’ eating. Every day a challenge to eat right and ‘be good’. Life can become so restrictive and focused on eating the perfect diet that there is less room for other interests, activities or relationships, That’s Orthorexia, a rapidly increasing form of disordered eating related to perfectionism, shame, anxiety and trauma. Fortunately studies show that Orthorexia responds well to integrated compassion-based counselling. Call for a consult and together we can normalize your relationship with food, reconnect with your feelings and find peace and wisdom in your body,